Vocabulary:
Consent Incident: An event or occurrence, involving consent, where something has gone wrong. There is no initial assumption of guilt or fault. Just as there is no initial assumption of victim or perpetrator. It is an event that happened which needs consideration, review, and outside support.
Consent Violation: An event or occurrence where someone believes their consent was broken, a set boundary was crossed, or harm was caused during the Consent Incident. Only a person who experienced harm within the event gets to decide if their consent was violated.
Person Who Experienced Harm: The person harmed during an incident. While normally people use the word “victim” here, we believe it important to 1) not identify people without their consent and 2) avoid bias that might cause additional harm.
Person Responsible for Harm: The person who created the harm during an incident. This may or may not be the person who was directly interacting. While normally people use the word “perpetrator” here, we avoid it for the same reason we don’t use the word victim.
Intent: The sum of our thoughts, feelings, desires, and beliefs that go into a decision to engage in a behavior. Can be either conscious or subconscious. Intent happens prior to action and may take minutes or moments to form. Intent is not behavior; it is the driving force that causes behavior.
Impact: The effect that behavior has. When we witness or experience someone else’s behavior we perceive it, and then have thoughts or feelings in response. That is the impact. It is not the action or behavior itself, but rather how it lands and affects us.
Transformative Accountability: A model for working to resolve a Consent Incident that focuses on positive change and accountability. It works to support the person who experienced harm, to get the help they need to recover from that harm. It works to support the person responsible for harm, to hold them accountable for that responsibility and help them move towards more consensual behavior. And it works to support the organization or community involved, to both recover from the incident and to help set up better systems and norms to better prevent incidents from happening in the future. Its focus is on recovery and change through appropriate communication, emotional support, accountability practices, and education.
What We Do:
The Consent Academy helps with Consent Incidents in a variety of ways:
Resources:
The Consent Primer: Our book on Consent. Available on Amazon
A Basic Consent Policy: The Consent Policy of our parent organization (The Pan Eros Foundation) and the one we following unless working with a company or organization that already has on in place.
Our Consent Violation Report Handling Procedure: This is the primary procedure we use when working with Consent Incidents unless working with a company or organization that already has one in place.
We take our responsibility to consent and consensual behavior very seriously. We expect all people at our workshops and events, educators, staff, and participants alike to behave in a consensual manner. Furthermore, all of our volunteers are held to the above Policy and Procedure standards as well as a strict code-of-conduct.
If at any point you or someone else needs to report a Consent Incident that took place at one of our events or involving one of our members, please contact us here.
If you do not feel comfortable contacting us directly, please feel free to contact the Pan Eros Foundation Here.
If you have any other questions, please use the Contact Page.
Consent Incident: An event or occurrence, involving consent, where something has gone wrong. There is no initial assumption of guilt or fault. Just as there is no initial assumption of victim or perpetrator. It is an event that happened which needs consideration, review, and outside support.
Consent Violation: An event or occurrence where someone believes their consent was broken, a set boundary was crossed, or harm was caused during the Consent Incident. Only a person who experienced harm within the event gets to decide if their consent was violated.
Person Who Experienced Harm: The person harmed during an incident. While normally people use the word “victim” here, we believe it important to 1) not identify people without their consent and 2) avoid bias that might cause additional harm.
Person Responsible for Harm: The person who created the harm during an incident. This may or may not be the person who was directly interacting. While normally people use the word “perpetrator” here, we avoid it for the same reason we don’t use the word victim.
Intent: The sum of our thoughts, feelings, desires, and beliefs that go into a decision to engage in a behavior. Can be either conscious or subconscious. Intent happens prior to action and may take minutes or moments to form. Intent is not behavior; it is the driving force that causes behavior.
Impact: The effect that behavior has. When we witness or experience someone else’s behavior we perceive it, and then have thoughts or feelings in response. That is the impact. It is not the action or behavior itself, but rather how it lands and affects us.
Transformative Accountability: A model for working to resolve a Consent Incident that focuses on positive change and accountability. It works to support the person who experienced harm, to get the help they need to recover from that harm. It works to support the person responsible for harm, to hold them accountable for that responsibility and help them move towards more consensual behavior. And it works to support the organization or community involved, to both recover from the incident and to help set up better systems and norms to better prevent incidents from happening in the future. Its focus is on recovery and change through appropriate communication, emotional support, accountability practices, and education.
What We Do:
The Consent Academy helps with Consent Incidents in a variety of ways:
- We continuously learn more about the influences and impacts involved to update our learning, models, and curriculum.
- We teach about them and how to work with them.
- (See our Consent for Leadership and Transformative Accountability classes)
- We help train Consent Advocates to manage an incident when it pops up.
- We offer consultation for organizations that are trying to deal with one or prevent them from happening.
- We offer consultation for individuals involved in one to help give support and knowledge on how to best navigate it.
- We write about them and how to navigate them.
Resources:
The Consent Primer: Our book on Consent. Available on Amazon
A Basic Consent Policy: The Consent Policy of our parent organization (The Pan Eros Foundation) and the one we following unless working with a company or organization that already has on in place.
Our Consent Violation Report Handling Procedure: This is the primary procedure we use when working with Consent Incidents unless working with a company or organization that already has one in place.
We take our responsibility to consent and consensual behavior very seriously. We expect all people at our workshops and events, educators, staff, and participants alike to behave in a consensual manner. Furthermore, all of our volunteers are held to the above Policy and Procedure standards as well as a strict code-of-conduct.
If at any point you or someone else needs to report a Consent Incident that took place at one of our events or involving one of our members, please contact us here.
If you do not feel comfortable contacting us directly, please feel free to contact the Pan Eros Foundation Here.
If you have any other questions, please use the Contact Page.